Bank Holiday Weekends.... the other side

It is a four day weekend here, with usual business resuming on Wednesday.  Whilst it is really nice to have a break, and I certainly don't begrudge anyone enjoying some time away from work, and with people they care about ... there is another side to Bank Holidays that doesn't often get a mention.

Most people are with their families.  I, myself have spent a little time with my family this weekend.  However, there are times when having an even longer weekend than normal brings into sharp focus how lonely and empty time can be for some of us.  Friends don't tend to call, and ways to pass the time such as shops, libraries and leisure centers are closed.  

Weather permitting it can be lovely to take a trip out in the countryside, or even just a long walk around the neighborhood (nice and easy on the budget).  But it doesn't fill a whole day.

Food is hard to plan for some reason.  I think it has been praying on my mind how socially bonding food can be. To eat alone for a few days on the trot feels wrong in face of some many social/ family/ and public events.

I urge anyone who has been at a bit of a loose end this weekend to take a chance, and call someone you haven't called in a long time.  Chances are they will be just as pleased to hear from you as you are to speak.  But I ask one favor, please don't extend invites out of pity.  Tagging onto an event like a spare wheel is embarrassing and can be hurtful.  Sympathy cuts like a knife, so even if you feel it, don't show it, just be your usual chatty self. 

Make someones day and reach out to connect.  However brief, it will lift you as well as them.

xx